Have you tried sitting him down to talk about these concerns directly, but in a calm and loving manner? If you don't feel confident doing so yourself, would you be willing to see if he will go with you to a therapist? Seems to me that if you want the relationship to continue, he needs a reality check and should at least be trying to improve himself. I've been like him before, ashamed to admit. I didn't realize just how bad I was until I took a good hard look at why things kept failing. His view sounds similarly distorted as mine was. The good news is that he can still be saved if he wants to put in the effort, but it's on him to put in that effort.