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Originally Posted by guileless
When searching for therapists, it was obvious when one presented very needy for my approval. This was by the second session. Another one encouraged me to email him after the first session. Someone can very well interpret that in different ways, but with all the context, I thought he was lonely. I likely would have never noticed these things had I not done the type of therapy I've done.
It may seem kind of mean to say, but after my experiences, it's self-protection. I have been very vulnerable in my therapy and for that an other reasons am prone to being harmed.
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that is good that you have the ability and the confidence to do this, to weed out the Ts who you feel will not work for you or may have questionable issues that will get in the way of your therapy.
if i were to ever return to therapy, (most likely not before hell freezes over
) knowing what i know now, after experiencing therapy the way i did and learning the things i have, i too believe i would be in a much better position to protect and advocate for myself and my needs when it came to selecting a 'healthy' therapist. when i first started therapy, i was ignorant, quite naive, and very vulnerable. i was incredibly desperate and so full of shame that i didn't feel that i was worthy enough to even sit in the presence of an 'all knowing guru' and privilege them with my septic toxicity. i was in no condition, nor did i have the confidence, to screen my Ts in their mental health capacity to whether they would be helpful or harmful for me. all i knew was that a T was suppose to help you heal...not cause more harm in the process. unfortunately, i suspect a lot of clients seeking therapy in their times of need and desperation may be in a similar situation when seeking help and have absolutely no clue what to look out for and are just relieved that someone is willing to sit there with them
