Thanks for your replies.
Ididitmyway - the shame relates to my childhood, but is triggered in therapy - maybe your asking for specifics, which I'm not sure I want to write down.

Whalen - thanks for your comment, that's exactly, she was supposed to help. I paid her. I don't know what to think.

Riverlight- thanks for sharing, it's helpful to hear of you having a similar experience. In some ways I think therapists play with fire, they blunder around and can really bruise clients. I think they must be oblivious because many of us bruised clients slink of quietly, and the T never realises. I do hope that my thoughts and memories of her will fade. I hope yours do too. i wonder how her other clients find her.