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Because it's not what someone is use to for the past 30 years, it can appear quite frightening because it requires a different skill set, the connection and expectation of warm conversation set, and anticipation of how good that can make one feel. Such closeness is eyed with suspicion when we haven't ever had it.

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This sounds accurate to me.

At this moment in time I think I write my T outside our scheduled sessions because a small part of me has "tasted" or has realized some benefits being connected with others more deeply. This part wants more.

I just haven't been able to convince myself this is OK yet.