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Originally Posted by Michael2Wolves
I get that shifting my focus would probably be healthier than obsessing over something I can't control; however, it feels like by doing so, I'll just be burying my head in the sand and ignoring the frightening reality of the situation for the sake of temporal expediency. I think that is one of the reasons I searched previously so hard for a partner--to one distract myself by focusing on the needs of another, and two to ensure that I'm not wasting my life worrying about what I'm missing out on.
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I sometimes feel the same way, that if I were to stop obsessing about things I can't control that I would be sticking my head in the sand like an ostrich.
BUT!
Distracting yourself by focusing on the needs of others isn't always the best answer. I have a tendency to do that to a destructive level, forsaking everything for others. Even though I realize how bad I'd gotten with it (after a few too many instances of forgoing meals and bathroom breaks because my PTSD-suffering cat was so comfortably laying against me and I put her comfort over my needs) it's become so ingrained that I barely understand psychology's concept of "self-care." So just be careful.