Thanks everyone so much for the responses, and it is a clear message not to do that. FJ- I do feel like I have no good options for communicating, but I need to be more flexible and creative instead of taking a bad option. It just seems like I'm too dependable/dependent, and he takes that for granted. The times he seems a bit concerned are the few times- maybe twice in two years- I've been a little late. Since he claims to "show" caring instead of expressing it, I kind of want to show a protest instead of talking about it, which gets me no where anyway. I absolutely agree he probably wouldn't get the message and he also definitely wouldn't do some out of character kind of caring gesture, so I would end up feeling even worse. Thanks for pointing that out. Most likely he would charge me for the session, and refresh my memory that he only works with people who want to be there. I have to work out for myself if I am powerless to change things beyond actually quitting or if it is some remnant of childhood that makes me feel powerless when my T is just sitting there listening and being perfectly nice, and the neutrality freaks me out . I do wish he was a titch more supportive- not a lot but a little.