This was the second phone call today from Mom. The first one, I had to tell her to “please respect my boundaries” because she went on a rant about politics and how she writes about it on facebook. She was reading to me what she posted. I hate that she is so narcissistic about her facebook postings and constantly harps on me to read what she posts. I told her facebook is totally unimportant. I do not want to have political discussions. And I begged her to stop talking politics and to please respect my boundaries! That was the first conversation that ended fairly well.

But then she had to call back later to tell me how my aunt told her she thinks me and my sisters are POS. My mom wanted to know if it was true that I had not contacted my cousin. I said it was true. I apologized and said I felt bad about not doing it, and that I had tried last night.

But then I got angry at how my mom just had to go and tell us what my aunt said to her. This was just to stir up bad feelings, right? I asked her if she thought my aunt was lying. Why did she need to call me to confirm. Yes, it was true.

I just can’t get along with her.

I am in my head while she is speaking telling myself to get off the phone without a fight, but then I fall into it.

And I’ve been telling her every time she calls how nice it is to be toxic drama free lately. Every time she starts with me, I remind her how I have eliminated toxic drama for my mental health. But she won’t let up until she triggers me to an altercation!