I agree we need to have realistic expectations for the services our T's provide. They are not going to be there for us 24/7. They have the right to have a personal life. They should be paid for services rendered but they should clearly state their fees and what services are included which are extra.

For me it would be very helpful to have specific rules established so that I don't feel like I am imposing on her time or wondering if I am expecting too much. Since I have never been in therapy before, nor have I experienced this level of interaction before there have been issues arise that I totally did not anticipate. I'd like a Therapy Handbook that clearly defines our relationship, things I am expected to do, things I can expect my T to do, outside session communication, etc..

I want a Handbook dammit!

Having said all of that....I have to also consider the possibility that working all of this crap out as it comes up ...JUST MIGHT BE PART OF THE PROCESS of establishing an intimate relationship :-)

Is my heart growing???