Me again!

I've had a friend for 13-14 years. We met in collage and bonded instantly. She has severe depression issues, I have my issues. We relate to each other on many levels. When our kids were young she moved to another province. Shes flown here for me and I've flown there for her. She is one of a handful of people I will talk to on the phone.

Well hubby and I decided to go on a vacation, no kids, to reconnect with each other. The city we were going to was 1.5 hours from my friend. Because the visit was a focus on my relationship I turned down invitations for visits from friends, across the board.

So the friend in question unfriends me on fb. I reach out to ask what I did and apologize. She flips out that I didnt contact her for a visit. I said is was a reconnect for me and hubby. She said thata fine, but I should have messaged her to explain. I said I wasnt aware that I needed to explain myself to people.

In the end I said it was 50/50 fault. She could have communicated her hurt. I could have been less oblivious and more sensitive. To be fair though, it is way easier if people just tell me what bothers them. It wouldn't have bothered me if the situations were reversed, so I didnt think of it.

She told me she wishes me the best. Friendship over just like that. Input welcome. I guess I feel like I dont get people at all these days.