I have to respond to this. So are you saying that ONE physical abuse incident is acceptable and should be tolerated? That's what you're saying, which I don't believe is helpful to the OP at all.

Even just ONE instance is not OK. Abuse also worsens statistically. There's a member on here whose husband took his hand to, she thought it was an isolated incident, then it got SO much worse.. he beat and raped her.

Physical abuse is NOT to be taken lightly, brushed under the rug or something to discuss over lunch/coffee.

And she shouldn't be angry with him? What kind of advice is that? I would be enraged beyond belief and he would hear it from me, if it were me.