She's probably dealing with abandonment. It might be best for you to take advantage of the space apart from this debacle to rekindle your relationship with your husband.

After all. You don't have to live with her.

I know that's brutal, but I'm still trying to get the first published copy of the friendship handbook too.

But if you're both loopy, you might have to make it up to her over a coffee. Or better yet, help paint her house.

In my personal experience, the third wheel didn't help move things along. But at least it was interesting.

You could also just pick up the phone and maybe meet =]

What's your husband's stance on all of this.. guys are usually black or white.