The first few months I didn't cry. Then for a year or so my T just ignored it. Not that he wasn't caring when I cried, he just didn't mention it at all. We'd talk the same way as if I were not crying. Then maybe a month ago I was crying (as I have been for almost every session since I first cried), and he got up and walked to one of his closets to get some tissues and gave them to me. Now he does that every time.
Not mentioning it at first was great. I think I would have felt ashamed if he did mention it. I also do not like to be touched, and in addition to that, I think it would not be healthy for me to start hugging my T.
The tissue thing feels nice though. Although it makes me wonder why he never offered them before and also why he has them hidden away somewhere. But it doesn't feel more or less caring than not mentioning anything.
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