My dad abandoned me when I was 9. He promised to come back and never did. He died before I ever saw him again. I am significantly sure he caused my BPD between abuse and abandonment.

My friends know that I will talk anything out, but just leaving triggers me. This is the second time she has done this. I started to tell my husband maybe it's me and he stopped me cold. He said I am not responsible for her not being able to talk her feelings out and it's not a flaw with me.

She may want back in some day, but as far as i am concerned, the bridge has been burned. I will not chase. My heart is not a revolving door to be used at will. I tried and she made her choice.