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Originally Posted by TheSadGirl2
My dad abandoned me when I was 9. He promised to come back and never did. He died before I ever saw him again. I am significantly sure he caused my BPD between abuse and abandonment.
My friends know that I will talk anything out, but just leaving triggers me. This is the second time she has done this. I started to tell my husband maybe it's me and he stopped me cold. He said I am not responsible for her not being able to talk her feelings out and it's not a flaw with me.
She may want back in some day, but as far as i am concerned, the bridge has been burned. I will not chase. My heart is not a revolving door to be used at will. I tried and she made her choice.
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2nd time around & if she was aware of the BPD... perhaps, you do get into more emotional strife than it's worth territory.
Having said that, it sounds like she may also have signs of borderline in her reactions. From personal experience, I know that depression/stress have certainly caused me to over-react after a perceived slight, if only momentarily. Social media allows that kind of snap action to be made instantly, before logic claws back into control & one breathes in & draws back from retaliation.
Either way, I'd try to avoid thinking of this in terms of flaws, or burnt bridges, as it's further negativity that doesn't tend to help oneself - perhaps file under
hiatus & see what a future day may bring?