My pdoc who I initially began therapy with in 2005 had a promotion and job change so that she only sees me for med visits now. She referred me to a psychologist in her clinic (so my pdoc is my therapist's boss).

Well pdoc took emails and I did write her quite often, and she always wrote back, even if a short reply sometimes. I continued emailing pdoc even though I had switched to the psychologist. The PhD refused to take emails (she only works part-time at the clinic), but does call back if you leave her a voice mail at the office, eventually.

To make a long story short, I had emailed a complaint or two to my pdoc about the therapist (who she supervises) and my pdoc who is overworked forwarded my emails to the psychologist!!! It ended up with a very bad session between me and my Phd, and I cried and felt horrible and also felt attacked! Now here is an example where email came back and bit someone in the butt!! I can still email my pdoc who sees me for med visits only, but I choose not to for now. I don't think she intended to cause trouble; she was just trying to help somehow and was too hurried to stop and think of the damage it could do.

I said nothing horrible about my therapist, but it was enough to cause me to consider giving up therapy now. I may just go to see the pdoc for med visits. My therapist says she still cares about me and respects me! I am not sure I feel the same. She railed on at me for an entire session and I cried the whole time. She said I was hindering her ability to help me, etc. But since then we have talked about the whole relationship issues and she says she feels fine with it now; but I can't tell her I don't! I have not emailed or phoned anyone outside of my weekly appointment since the 'incident'. I have learned an important lesson and yes I was stupid to trust my pdoc would not tell my therapist.