What percentage of the total time is the stuff you have a problem with?

Is his buying you stuff his buying your loyalty so you will feel like you have to tolerate the things he does?

Abusers groom the people they abuse in similar ways & the people do enjoy being with their abusers or they wouldn't stick around for thecabuser to abuse them.

Just make sure your boundaries are firm. He may not be such a rock afterall.....just something to possibly think about & be aware of.