Thank you! I agree with all of this, btw. I mean, dating is a 2 way street and there are things I've had deal breakers with before (I dated a guy in a wheelchair once, and to be honest, that was sort of hard for me). Even if its just how the guy acts. In terms of not having a job / being on disability and dating, it can be a somewhat hard thing. Its one of the reasons why I pull back from dating sometimes. I mean, this is something I cannot help, and I'm being judged for it. Any who, I did say to this particular guy, "if that's a deal breaker with you, I understand." And he said no it wasn't. But we were completely not vibing, and I sort of mentioned that too to him too. lol.

I don't know why I want to mention, but he was a complete hipster type, and seemed really into his image and at the same time, he was not very nice. Made fun of things. He has a dog but made fun of a dead bird we saw on the trail we were walking on. I was disgusted (by his remark). It's like, ok, if it's smaller than a dog, you don't care about it? I held a dying bird in my hands once and it was so sad. Geez. Just different values. It's sort of cool though, because in dating and in life, I've started to become more secure in who I am. And when someone acts like an idiot, regardless of "how cool" they think they are and how "hip" they may look, I don't give a **** if their behavior is off. I can stand back and be like, "well, thanks for the date but I will never be seeing you again."

I go through phases where I date more, and date less. I personally think it's a good idea to focus on my goals of working, right now. Talk about it in therapy, explore my interests, and face my fears. Me working, is not going to be happening super soon. There are steps. But I'm ready to take those steps.

Some other people said it's a good idea to meet others in real life, instead of online dating. I agree. I'm not in a hurry to find a mate, either.