That was not true for me. The first woman was useful for grief because she stayed back but she would have said she felt. Her feeling or ability to feel had nothing to do with it that I can tell with why I found her useful.
The second one, who was more intellectual (since I do not know their actual intelligence), was more useful in other ways around my grieving such as helping me function through the early stages and come more to grips with it in some of the latter. I am not finished with grief (if one ever is) and they are both retired so I have no ability to tell what would have been useful going forward.