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Originally Posted by Quanticia
That's sad 
We're probably friendly because I've worked on myself a lot, for many years. I've had a lot of psychological problems, but now I feel quite good with myself. Well, except from my ADD.
Recognizing and accepting her existence helped, too, as she's been trying to draw my attention for quite some time. Persuading her I do want the best for both of us was a good ground to start talking. Who knows, perhaps your "thing" is also, deep down, a pained person thirsty for a hug.
To be honest, I wouldn't mind to be two people forever, as long as we can think and work in unison. |
You certainly don't need to integrate if you don't want to. That is entirely up to you, and no therapist or other professional whom you might seek advice from should pressure you to integrate into just one person. They used to do that in the 80s/90s but that's not the goal anymore. If you don't want to lose your head-mate you don't have to.
Everyone has a different way of finding their fullest life. Yours might be to stay just as you are but get even better at negotiating where your attention needs to be at a given moment. It might even be helpful for your other person to learn to use the body, as that might reduce frustrations for her, and make it easier to let you do your own thing mentally, when you need to.
You are the ones living your life, so it's up to you!
