Sorry healingme4me, I didn't make it very clear in my post. It"s women I have issues with. I guess saying partners does leave it open for interpretation...

In my LIFETIME, I've only had ONE woman gravitate to me. I was too scared to venture further with her, so I'll never know how THAT may have worked. EVERY other relationship I've been in has been set up by a friend or family member. Although that IS a common link, I wouldn't assume that was the issue in particular. Would you?