Sorry for the initial misunderstanding.

Maybe the issue is that these relationships have been set up for you by others in your life? It's certainly worth exploring.

Why do they insist on doing that for you?

I get that women are tough to gauge and read. And of course, as I'm learning about better flirtation as a woman, men can be afraid of the walk of shame if misreading cues and are shot down by someone they may have found interesting.

So, is that what is happening in life? Fear?