Oooh, she is young. She's beating up on you because you're the only safe thing in her life. I should not have assumed that she was well into her 20's. She must be a wreck...still a teen, a kid, and unexpectedly pregnant with the baby of a man who is not providing security. She's in sh---it deep and the reality is, due to her young age, unless you want to lose her and your grandchild entirely, so are you.

This is not someone you can just walk away from. Your daughter is still doing teen-aged acting out. That's not unusual; the problem is that she is not coping well, is pregnant, and is with a loser of a guy. She's so young, she and your grandchild could well end up in a seriously destructive situation. This is not a polite case of "I suggest family therapy". This is a case of there needs to be intervention NOW. She is most likely using, too, or has prior to her pregnancy.

I cannot suggest strongly enough that you must stop personalizing your daughter's behavior, stop focusing on yourself - by that, I mean use ALL of your inner strength (even if you don't think it's there! Use it anyway) - and DETACH from the pain you perceive as being inflicted by your daughter. She is so young, she's completely lost right now. Everything in this situation must go toward the well-being of your grandchild.

I strongly suggest that you go to your local HHSA (Health and Human Services Agency) ASAP and tell them that your daughter needs help. IF you can get her to go with you - great. She needs major resources right now, Tucson. No time to waste. Of course take care of yourself. Take care of yourself so you can deal with this situation and help to be sure your grandchild has at least a fair start in life.

If there's anything else we can do, just say so.