I normally post on the dissociative board. I am upset about something regarding sexual abuse of toddlers. Many of the women that post on that board say that they were sexually molested while they were toddlers. Some make claims of the sexual abuse starting at the age of four. They claim that it was sadistic and horribly abusive. (This seems to be the norm for the people posting on that board.)

The reason that this upsets me is that it makes it sound that a patient has to be horribly abused as a toddler in order to have a dissociative disorder. I know that to be not true by reading Dr. Colin Ross's book on Multiple Personality Disorder.

I was not sexually molested by adults as a child and I have a dissociative disorder. I had other little boys playing doctor with me from the age of five until I found out that this was not normal. These other little boys usually turned out to be gay after puberty. Some did not but they usually had been molested by an older male child, sometimes the older brother. My parents had no parenting skills and never talked to me about anything.

The other thing that upsets me about people who claim to have been molested as toddlers is that I am a heterosexual male, albeit socially dysfunctional, and I pretty much know the percentages of the number of men that would be sick enough to molest a toddler. That percentage would be way less than one percent.

Dr. Ross produced a video where he got some of his patients to discuss their sexual molestation. In one case it was a young man. He describes his relationship with his mother's brother, his uncle. For some reason the parents allowed the uncle to take the child and be a surrogate parent. I believe that the uncle lived in the same house with the family. During early childhood the uncle was very loving, took the child to movies, parks, etc. The uncle seemed like a loving and doting parent. Only later in life after the child was older did the petting and touching become sexual and eventually led to homosexual sex. The young man did not know this was not normal until middle or high school when his friends told him. He then tried to commit suicide and eventually got to Dr. Ross or some one who could help him.

This same scenario was discussed by a woman whose father sexually molested her. The father programmed the child over a period of years before the sexual molestation started. The father was very loving and doting. This was their little secret. Again until older the girl did not know that this was incest.

What I am trying to get at is the number of humans that would be sexually sadistic to a toddler is extremely rare and not common place like it seems on the dissociative board.

Okay, I am open now for the ridicule.