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Originally Posted by unaluna
How does going on vacation with your parents stress you? I get the feeling you want to wrap your t around you like a protective blanket, hence the feeling of loving him. Do your parents like your husband, or do they hassle you about him, or does he hassle you about them? What can t do or say to make your vacation better?
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That's a good description of what I wish T could do. Hence why I'm hoping we can work out a phone call. Though I wish he could be staying in the condo next door and I could hide out over there every once in a while...
It's a mix of things. Partly, 5 people staying in a 2-bedroom condo, so lack of real space to myself. Parents who seem to judge when I want to spend time alone (my mom in particular doesn't get the whole introvert thing), so I have to keep coming up with excuses--I think I took 3 showers a day on one vacation, or I'd say I wanted to take a nap, but really would just hide out in bedroom.
There's a lot of feeling like I have to pretend to be a certain person for my mom, which I feel I've had to do all my life. The sort of putting on a happy face. Being critical of me in some ways that she's not critical of others (or, well in some ways that she *is* critical of others). Making a big deal out of it if I'm not feeling well/feeling anxious and am having trouble eating much, or just plain hate the food she made (see: past post involving awful Francesco Rinaldi sauce and mushy spaghetti). So now H and I do the cooking one night and go out to eat the others. Though last year she was judgmental about the fact that we went to bars each night, but it's our vacation, we can walk everywhere, and, I mean, whatever, it's 3 nights. My dad made a big deal about all the water bottles I used the one year, but that's too long to go into.
If we're all sitting in the living room, they can't just let me sit there quietly, doing my own thing, it's like we have to be talking. My dad will sometimes sort of mock our D, which really bothers H. If D is being really cranky, my mom will laugh and act like it's funny, which it isn't when I have to deal with it every day (I mentioned that yesterday, and T said it's probably giving me more insight into how they were to me as parents...)
And they actually like H quite a bit (helps I had some ex-BFs who they didn't like so much!) But I think it's just everyone grates on everyone else. We've done better finding time away on our own, like H will go to this one outlet store, I'll go do shopping on my own or go for a walk. And H does really stick up for me down there and has my back, which I really appreciate.
On a completely unrelated note, I know that two police officers down there (if still working there) have seen me naked...
Sorry you asked?
