Hello beachy: I noticed this is your first posted thread here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I see you posted this in the relationships forum. One other forum, here on PC, that may be of particular interest would be the partners of people & caregivers forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/part...ivers-support/

Here are links to a few articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of caring for yourself when you're the caregiver & other self-care topics that may be of interest plus 2 articles on the topic of becoming empty nesters:

Caring for Yourself When You're a Caregiver | Weightless

Practicing Self-Care During Stressful Times

Filling the Well When You Feel Depleted

Working Through Your Emotions with Your Hands | Weightless

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...nful-emotions/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/using-...o-reclaim-joy/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-emp...ity-or-crisis/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-do...st-depression/

My best wishes to you & your family...