Thinks:

My power struggle with Madame T was not so much about establishing dominance (although we both saw it that way) as having different ideas of what an equal relationship would be like.

Madame T (and I doubt she's alone) thinks that a relationship can be equal without being symmetrical. This to me sounds too much like "separate but equal", i.e. apartheid.

(Some of you young'uns may not even know what apartheid means. Thank God for that.)