I just want to thank you all for sharing your opinion and/or your own experience.
You are all right in one way or another. Getting her into couples therapy with me would be , I believe, very helpful. Things can be said to a neutral party in a neutral environment. But getting her to agree to go would be a major accomplishment. It just saddens me how much non-communication can really hurt so much. I think it’s a major problem with all of humanity. If we can’t talk to each other........
Again , thank you all