Hm... it does sound a little victim blamey to me, but she probably didn't mean it in that way. It is important, so I'm told, to reflect on the ways abuse changes our personalities, and makes us more susceptible to more abuse. Abuse can plant deep shame in us, and feelings of unworthiness. Maybe that's what she was getting at?


I can't say for sure! If that's something you're sensitive to, you could always bring it up with her next session.