So II had this discussion with my T about CBT. It doesn't work for me, I'm literally allergic to it and I get anxiety and stress as soon as she tries to use it on me. I have to say she's open to doing simple talk and exposure most of the time, so that's fine.
However yesterday she said I have a cognitive distortion. I was saying that I'd feel weird about going to the meet up from high school after 10 years. The reason is that I'm 30 and still living in my parents house (although they live elsewhere atm so technically I live alone but the property is their). I work in a family business that's far below my education level. The only "normal" thing I do is private tutoring a few times a week. No boyfriend, no children, my friends live far away, we keep in touch online.
So I said that I think it's normal to feel weird compared to my peers (I went to a high school for highly intelligent students and all of them are very ambitious).
I also said that I in my inner feeling believe I'm strong and had to show great courage in my life. That I may be stronger than my peers in some ways. However I said that compared to standards of normal healthy population I'm a loser.
I think what I said is quite realistic and rational.
My T says it's a cognitive distortion.
Is it?

I said I much prefer accepting reality than doing mental gymnastics and believing something just because it is positive, only for the sake of being positive, even when that would mean being out of touch with reality.
I said I find CBT with its right and wrong answers manipulative. That's how I feel. She asked me to explain how exactly it is manipulative. I feel it is but I'm not able to explain it to her. Any ideas or thoughts about this conversation?
Am I distorted? Is my T pushing something unrealistic? Is CBT manipulative - why/why not?