Thank you both.
I think I've got another argument against CBT which I felt for a long time but it didn't come to my mind now. It's picking up random isolated words and dissecting them instead of actually listening to the main message I was trying to say. It drives me crazy. Once, about a year ago she asked me to come up with 5 words and sentences and then she checked if they were logically correct as if she nad marking a math test. Fortunately it was a relatively easy topic so I just laughed inside but if she did that on a more serious topic I wouldn't return.

It is exactly manipulative in a way you can't say what you mean, what those words mean to you, but you have to give correct answers that they will like. It's like writing an essay about a book. You can't say your opinion, you must guess what the teacher wants to hear.
That's how cbt feels to me. I could give her all the correct answers because I can guess what she wants but it absolutely wouldn't mean I believe it or that it's helpful in any way.