This is really frustrating to hear. First of all, I think your concerns are all valid--they are your definition of a non satisfying life that you want to move away from. Is it that hard for them to listen to you and help you navigate a way forward instead of saying that your thinking is wrong? Sheesh. People achieve things in life--career, relationships, personal goals--because they don't like where they are or who they have become in some regard. To call that dissatisfaction a disortion is a manipulation because it's steering you toward what the therapist wants you to think and do. There are other options, like exploring what's brought you to this place in life, or to just let you express your feelings so that you can sort through things. You could do CBT back on her and ask her to come up with alternative ways of viewing your struggles besides cognitive distortion.

I, too, have similar struggles and feelings about being a social loser, though that's not my term. Calling it a cognitive distortion does nothing to help me. It's a cheap, lazy, insulting technique.