Perhaps CBT is also annoying and manipulative in a way because it may feel like disciplining children. Personally, it always makes me angry even to hear when Ts treat clients as children, bot that might (at least in part) be my issue as well. I would never accept that from a T, or from any external "authority". But when I did it on my own, discipline was exactly what I lacked/needed (and not any sort of deep dive), so probably why it was helpful as a self-regulating technique. A bit like the DBT skills some people find useful - mine was just very specific to a certain area, not a broad range of emotional regulation methods. But I am pretty sure that if other people "analyzed" my responses in the same way and told me how to react (or how not to react), I would have asked them to take a hike.