I think sometimes Ts try to over-normalize situations in order to appear supportive, and it becomes totally unrealistic, if not destructive. I had a version myself in the past, in a period of my life when I was intensely dissatisfied with my achievements (or lack of them, my sloppy efforts etc), life conditions, social standing, many things. But I saw it very clearly how I put myself in those situations long-term, with my own decisions and wrong actions - no one else was even slightly responsible. It was a crazy life and I kept adding more and more destructive things to it.

The T I was seeing at the time tried to soothe my dissatisfaction and self-hatred by claiming it was normal, and tried to make me believe it was due to early life experiences that led to unhealthy coping mechanisms. I really hated that approach - it felt like he was shifting responsibility - instead of encouraging me to continue taking responsibility for whatever I put myself into and change the situations in the present reality (what I was dissatisfied with), he wanted me to vent about my childhood and stuff like that. That was not CBT, but I definitely thought his ideas and approach were distorted, not my own assessment of my present reality. It was not helpful at all.

Later, I figured that the whole thing was more projections of the T himself - he had very clearly proven an irresponsible, reality-distorting, blame-shifting person who was at least as stuck in his dogmas/acts as I was in my self-destructive behavior. The difference was that, I think, he did not see the dissonance between the reality of situations and momentary emotional reactions/ his avoidance of responsibility.

I did not have an issue comparing myself to my peers much, more wanting to be aligned with my own standards and values but failing because I gave in to momentary impulses too much. The T actually tried to show me how accomplished I was relative to my peers (average population with my background and educational level), but could not understand that I did not care about that at all - I wanted to stand up to my own values and ambitions. He tried to convince me that my quality standards were way too high. But it did not achieve anything - another person can not talk me out of my value system. Long story short, my problems were resolved by applying discipline and strategy myself in the longer run. Therapy helped me nothing in that. In fact, associating myself with people who had similar values and standards helped more than anything. In a way, I think we all have our own perceptions and versions of "reality". It's rarely helpful to preach to someone and claim theirs is wrong.