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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
T: "I'm not immune to you, LT." Me: "What?" T: "Things you say and do affect me. I'm not going to hide that. I'm trying to teach you how other people can be affected by what you choose to share. So that maybe you'll think more carefully about it before you share with them." Me: "...Are you trying to say if something like this happens in the future, I shouldn't share it with you?" T: "Well, you should really think about the effect it could have." Me: "But wouldn't something like that have therapeutic value? Like, say, why I was looking at your photo one week but not another?" T: "I'm just saying to think about what you share." Me: "And I know you're trying to get me to know how affect other people...but I'm not going to tell my friend that I missed her and looked at her photo. Well, possibly a family member, but...I think that's kind of normal."
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This part seems off to me. It's almost like he's shutting part of you down. I get the relational part of what he's saying, that we can use the therapist to see how we deal with other people IRL. But at the same time, isn't therapy a place where we should feel free to share? I just had a rupture with my therapist over something like this. I shared something and he got defensive about it, but he's said since then that I should be able to share anything and feel safe, understood and accepted. (I think we've resolved this rupture now.) I feel like his statement puts you in a bind. "Go ahead and share and I'm going to react, but maybe you shouldn't share in the first place." I find this confusing.