And yet your demand of your T is that she give you concrete answers about situations that may never provide such answers. You can't have it both ways: to reject inferences (she's giving her professional best guess, not dictating an ultimatum), yet also demand concrete answers. Either accept living with ambiguity and move forward from that, or entertain possibilities in in-depth ways that will lead to acceptance or rejection. What you're doing is refusing to engage and it keeps you exactly where you are. Is that really what you want? If so, have at it, but it seems like an awfully painful way to live a life.