((((((((((((((((((sabby's friend))))))))))))))))))))))))) Yes what she experienced is sexual abuse. It is never appropriate for an older person to sexually assault a minor. Ever. Not under any circumstances is it all right. The guilt lies with the perpetrator. She is not guilty of anything. This feeling of guilt is common but it is not fair to the victim. Absolutely he took advantage of her. Emotionally and physically. Fear can be such a wide range of reasons. Fear of the person doing the act, that the act even happened, will it be repeated, fear of themselves, fear of the bodies automatic responses and the list can go on. A good trauma therapist is an excellent source. It is not unknown territory to them and they can provide a wealth of support. She is not alone. I also welcome her to post here and to certainly feel free to PM me. Please give your friend my sincere regret that she is having to deal with this.

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