My therapist of 2-1/2 years moved way too fast with a new modality early this year. I was a wreck. I kept trying to tell him I was overwhelmed, but he wasn't getting it. I spent months flipping between dissociation and emotional flashbacks. I nearly quit multiple times. He finally got it and backed way off. But now, my anxiety in therapy, already high, has tripled. He said he can't be afraid to accidentally push too hard or he wouldn't be doing his job. And he sort of took responsibility for moving too fast. But I really think I need more. I think I need an apology or something. Is that an okay thing to ask him for? The thing is, I don't know how I can feel safe there if I feel like I have to have my own back all the time. And my narcissist mom, a clinical psychologist, was overtly cruel and never apologized, so apologies are kind of a sore spot for me. I just don't know if I can get past this otherwise.
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