Honestly, I'm confused by some of your posts. If you're losing your house it seems like waiting until your husband gets a job that pays what he's worth is not the top priority for your family. In fact, if he were under-employed your family might qualify for government aid, rather than (for example) paying a lot for medical services. It seems to me that it's better to compromise and give up some things than not to compromise and lose everything.
Do you see a therapist?