It sounds like the hard part for you is to let someone know you are NOT interested and saying it out loud. You are NOT obliged to answer any question asked, it is OK to ignore them and stay "on business" or to say "I do not give out my phone number.". And, by the way, it WAS rape if you said no and he verbally and physically interfered with you getting your clothing or leaving. You did not say Yes. It was, it IS rape. I know what you are saying and there is a time I would have rationalized this kind of event in the same way, we are given the clear message (underneath the guise sometimes of "liberation" (which importantly means saying NO and being respected, and saying Yes to what is best for you).