I was thinking that maybe if you started working an a part time easy job that got you out of the house whilst your daughter is in school, that might (a) give you a little more money to spend and (b) help transition to a 'bigger' job.

Do you have enough in the house to be able to get a 'second mortgage'. I found this quite helpful in paying my son's way through college. Now i have some debt but only pay a few percent interest on it. This could help you through your dry spell while you wait for your husband's opportunities to come to fruition.