I don't lay down on it but I put my feet up on it while sitting and talking face to face. Sometimes I curl up on it. It helps me to feel more comfortable but I only started doing that after 2 years. He said I could lay down too but I don't think I like the idea of me laying down and him sitting up looking at me and me not being able to see him. I don't think it would help me open up, it would feel unnatural I think.