Dear t,
It's been a while since I had this gritting-my-teeth-till-next-session feeling.

The conversation I had with my kids' dad has left me reeling a bit. I can't find a place for it, even after taking some time to think about it. Even broaching a little of it with my girlfriends left them a little taken aback, not knowing what to think.

You saw how distorted things got, including my own distorted responses to his distorted thinking, and you know all the things that happened. I need a place to ask: What the hell was that? Is this normal? Do I need to get out, hold the line, what?

I know you won't tell me what to do, but I desperately need a perspective from outside my own head.