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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66
Okay, question here: how is having you stand aside and look at your thinking styles to recognise them as not working for you manipulative? Isn't this the very purpose of therapy to begin with? We don't go to therapy to merely have our thinking and behavioural patterns validated. We go because they are not working for us. It is the therapist's job to find ways for us to see that, acknowledge it, and provide us encouragement and resources to change. CBT is but one avenue to accomplish that. I mentioned the buy-in. I think you have to buy-in to therapy as purposed to enact some change in ourselves as the very reason we go there.
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I think we are all equipped to know ourselves if we trust it. There are practices like meditation that can assist in getting distance from habitual thought patterns. External feedback can be useful, but I'd say only rarely.
In my experience having a therapist "help" with this means becoming their puppet, exchanging your distortions for theirs, paying them to indulge their guru fantasies, and pretending the detached insights of a virtual stranger have some great meaning. I dont see the point of arbitrarily hitching your wagon to one of these people. They are not smarter or more perceptive than other people. I imagine the longer they sit in that chair the more skewed their thinking.