If being treated with kid gloves means being treated very carefully and with sensitivity, I think it would be appropriate for a therapist to treat a client with childhood trauma "with kid gloves," for whatever that is worth.

Personally I think it's fine to ask for an apology that he didn't listen to you when you were indicating this modality & pacing was harmful. I hope he is receptive and understanding.

Is your therapist perhaps an older man? I think therapy used to involve a lot more pushing of clients to address painful events. But my understanding, partly from ex T, is that these days the emphasis is on stability first, and maintaining that stability as much as possible during processing of traumas. So, again, I think it's legitimate to ask him to be careful and cautious of how you are handling things as you try to face painful things.