Anyone who starts by messaging “you’re beautiful, how are you single” is just using a cheesy pick up line— and probably copy-pasting it to dozens of others. Look for someone who actually took the time to write an original message— like mentioning something specific you wrote in your profile or asking you open-ended questions to get to know you. Mentioning sex or kissing before you’ve met in person is also a red flag. It shows they are only interested in one thing. Prior to meeting you, someone should be genuinely trying to get to know more about you as a person. It’s too early to know if someone is a good catch or to be thinking about physical intimacy. Look for someone who is asking questions specific to you and following up on detailed things you talked about earlier. It doesn’t hurt to be picky and weed out guys like the ones you mentioned.