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Originally Posted by mostlylurking
The way I read these examples, I think he is reacting a little bit like an older relative who finds the things a younger relative is saying to be endearing. I don't at all get a vibe like he is mocking you in any way. I think he is appreciating your candor or directness.
I don't think that means he sees you in a condescending way. I think that, just like clients sometimes get transference and start seeing their T as a bit like a parental figure, T's probably get transference too and sometimes feel protective or appreciative like a parental figure might. That stuff can happen even if it doesn't quite fit the data (i.e. your ages and so on). Just personally, I would tend to see this as a positive sign that he likes you as a client. That's just my personal read on things, from your examples.
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I'm glad it sounds more kind than condescending and I do think so too -- I like him a lot as a person (rare for me for an older white man tbh) and have been feeling similarly, that he is becoming a bit of a paternal presence in my life. But I sometimes have trouble determining if I should trust someone and what their motives are, and can overanalyze to the point of absurdity.