I’m estranged from my mother and have been struggling with this for the past year which happens to be about the time I met my T. As it turns out, when I first met my T, I found a picture of him on his sister’s FB page hugging his mom and sister with the caption, “Happy Mother’s Day to a mom who continues to give.” I recently chose to tell him that I’d found this picture and I commented to my T on the contrast between his relationship with his mother and my relationship with mine, and he replied that pictures don’t tell the full story which I completely get. He told me he had had similar difficulties with his mom and needed to have a conversation with her about boundaries, etc. Honestly when he was telling me this story I think I was only half listening because I was nervous about his reaction to my finding the photo (he ended up being super welcoming about it). I’ll have to ask him to repeat the story, but the bottom line is that over the past year while I was telling him about all the difficulties in my relationship with my mom, he may have had a similar experience and chose not to tell me about it in any way. Not even a little hint that he could personally relate to what I was going through. I know that he’s not obligated to share his personal life with me, but I’m wondering if in a way it was dishonest of him to only disclose this story after I found the picture of his mom. He really didn’t have to disclose it at all even after I told him about the picture, but that’s when he chose to tell me about his relationship with his mom. Otherwise he never would have told me. It just seems like it would have been relevant given my situation and could have helped me feel more connected to him. Is this dishonest or inauthentic of him? I’m just not sure what to think.