Your T's wish for you to see another T to get a second opinion speaks of her own insecurities and fragile ego much more than it does about your problem trusting her, whether real or imagined. I find it pathetic that a T takes a client's mistrust ( again whether real or imagined makes no difference) so personally. The decision about a second opinion should come from a client, not a T. If she has a problem with you not following her advice/direction..whatever, she should try to understand what's going on instead of making it personal. I actually don't understand what it is that you are supposed to follow, as therapists are not supposed to direct clients to do anything and therapy work is supposed to be about increasing client's confidence to make their own choices. So, I really don't get what her problem is.