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Always in This Twilight
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Aug 25, 2018 at 07:08 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna
Sorry! Aside from that criticism  i do like what he said about the little dictator - i can see that in myself too, esp talking to relatives. Geez my mom used to push me around SO MUCH. So telling your mom, these are our travel plans and not getting any pushback, i think thats a very tangible sign of progress. Thats like my aunt said to me yesterday, call us when you find your passport. Not "hurry up and find your passport." Not a demeaning command, just defining a boundary. |
Agreed. And that's good your aunt said that in a nondemeaning way--maybe she's seeing a different side of you? Like that you won't put up with her being demeaning? One thing T has talked about a few times, including yesterday (though I didn't include it) is about my setting boundaries with others. And also how all relationships, not just in therapy, have some sort of boundaries. And that it could help to define mine more, like opt to set boundaries with my mom instead of, say, letting her be in charge of the boundaries.
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