I dont see the point in assuming that whatever a therapist pulls out of their a*s is automatically good for the client (such a patronizing and disempowering concept) and has some logical basis. Makes just as much sense to assume his disclosure was abritrary or self-serving.

If therapist disclosures, or lack of, cause greater distress, then that is a failure and they should not be given an automatic pass on the basis that it's part of some grand plan for the hapless client.

Also I think if the relationship is so ambiguous and confusing that one must constantly question what is normal or healthy, that is a problem.